Thursday, August 24, 2017

Why I think I need Meditation lately

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Shh....... That is what i need at the moment. Silence. Freedom from noise. Freedom not from the external noise, but freedom from the internal noise. Freedom from the perennial noise that exists within me. The noise of ego, expectations, fear and disappointments. The noise which keeps playing and replaying the loud egotistical and fear driven conversations in my head. The noise that skews my sense of self and that of the world around me.



And isn't it paradoxical that whenever we are feeling down, we are told to party, hang-out, go shopping, get a make-over and blah blah blah... Resorting to the external noise to get rid of the internal noise. While these can be the temporary solutions but can't lead to the permanent blissful state of freedom from internal noise.



Distractions come easy. So, everyone buys the distractions of external noise to silence the voice within. Distractions lead us to a state of limbo. But Meditation will bring the answers.


Sunday, May 21, 2017

In a sunkissed world, I live

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In a sunkissed world, I live;

In nature is abundant joy,
Then why I am in misery,
Mired in what earthly ploy;

In a sunkissed world, I live;

The sky is ever so blue,
The Sun shines light years away,
Still, its warmth never fails you;
A bird revels in its flight,
It circles around,
Swings in the air,
As if in a merry-go-round;
The trees are so green,
Budding flowers shower love,
On butterflies which teem;
The song of a bird,
The dance of a humming bee,
It’s all too priceless,
And yet comes for free;

In a sunkissed world, I live;

In nature is abundant joy,
Then why I am in misery,
Mired in what earthly ploy;

I wonder if I lived in a world;
Where I paid
for the air I breathed,
And competed
for the sunlight I bequeathed;
Where the nature’s silence
Was replaced by a cacophony,
And for few moments of quiet,
I needed fortunes of money;
where the air was always still,
And for a few drops of rain,
I had to pay huge bill;

I wonder if I lived in such world;
But Thanks to the heavens,
In a sunkissed world, I live;

In nature is abundant joy,
Then why I am in misery,
Mired in what earthly ploy;

In a sunkissed world, I live;

The sky is ever so blue,
There is romance,
In colorful petals and their hues;
It’s all too priceless,
And yet comes for free.


In a sunkissed world, I live.

Monday, May 8, 2017

*......*

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Sometimes the only way out of pain is through the pain.

Sometimes the only way to let go is to embrace the pain and immerse in it before you are set free. 

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

A word with myself!

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Yesterday I just happened to observe a couple waiting in the queue right in front of me to buy the tickets. And all of a sudden, for no particular reason, I just got this thought.

“What exactly is marriage? To be with someone who wakes up by your side every day, who thinks he (or for that matter she too.. ) owns you to be able to enter you, but the moment that pact of right to each other’s body is violated,  will that relationship still survive and thrive?”

“Is not marriage just like one of the over-rated rituals?  Isn’t the need of marriage over hyped?”

That is to say,

I wonder if it is the marriage that is my need; or is it the confirmation and belonging to the widely accepted norms that is my need?

Is it the fear to stand out in the crowd for being different, fear of being looked down upon as some sort of pitiable object, and most of all fear of a life not validated by society at large?

Ofcourse, it is human nature to seek validation. The increasing no. of facebook posts, the plethora of tweets, the opinionated blogs; what is that one common thing that is at the bottom of it all? Isn’t it validation? There is hunger for validation. So, may be, one of us out here, doesn’t really has the need of a better-half to feel whole; maybe, one of us out here, does feel content and at peace just by being with ourselves; maybe, one of us out here, does not want to take up the responsibility of another life; maybe, one of us out here is capable of taking good care of one self; maybe, for one of us out here, the universal need of marriage is not universal afterall. But maybe, it’s just the fear of not getting validation that is holding that one of us person back, from sticking to his/her calling of life.


The only answer is perhaps that to live a life on one’s own terms and conditions, it requires a little more than courage. It requires fortitude, perseverance, and confidence on one’s own judgment. It requires the attitude of respecting others’ opinion and at the same time not getting affected too deeply by it.   

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Of this and that..

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##  When you get tired to the point of exhaustion trying to get the answers; take a deep breath, meditate, release the toxins; the panic, the fear, the urgency of getting answers; get hold of yourself, your inner strength. And then after some good amount of time, Rethink. Hopefully you'll arrive at the answers.

##  Its better to live your own choices and handle their consequences; Rather than living the choices of others and to keep blaming the entire world for the fate that turns out to be. Its better to be the driver of your life than to be a mere befuddled passenger.

## Sometimes, we cannot give expression to what feelings and emotions are evoked in us, on an encounter which may last for a minute or an hour or a day or longer. But, our aura has understood. So, trust your intuition, your instinct.

##  Everything is now. We are mere actors in the cosmic drama of life. Past is like a movie whose climax is over and done with. We have played our role and we are now in the present playing a new role. Its time to forget that character of past and assume the new character of present. Its about evolving. Future is yet another movie whose script will be revealed in time. The present is everything.
  

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Ramblings of a Passing Phase

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These days I find myself constantly thinking about where life is heading. I find myself thinking about all the small and big choices I have made in life. And while doing that I sometimes find myself fussing over compartmentalizing my choices into the two square boxes of right and wrong. Some other times I find myself fussing over the choices yet to be made. It’s like getting lost in a world of blues, stumbling at every step while trying to figure out the right way; when in reality there actually is no right and wrong way. There are just different ways, each with its own set of perks and setbacks.  

I don’t see life as black and white; I rather understand it to be just about all shades of grey. Then, why should I be worried about making the right choices all the time? I guess it’s just a phase. A phase where I am so occupied dwelling in all the possibilities of future that I find the present getting blurred in the background. Despite all the contemplation, the upcoming life just seems illusive. Each day ahead is one step closer to being thirty. And it’s freaking me out these days.   

My motivation level sky-rockets one moment and hits rock-bottom the next. Sometimes, I feel I can deal with being 30 and single; Other times I feel afraid of being left alone. Sometimes, I feel I have a decent life and crave for no more; Other times I feel I haven’t done anything substantial in life and I am just nowhere. Sometimes, I just want a peaceful life; Other times I find myself delving into some far-fetched dreams. Sometimes, I make a decision to not settle when it comes to finding a partner; Other times I feel like making it work with any man who so ever comes my way, even if halfheartedly.  Sometimes, I find myself lingering on to the slightest hope of finding love; Other times I find myself thrashing all my vain hopes and dictating myself to get on with reality. Sometimes, I find myself filled with a desire to travel and explore; Other times I feel like being grounded in my tiny little room for days together. Sometimes, I want my thoughts to be of a conformist’s; Other times I want to let them fly into rebellion. Sometimes, I feel I can handle anything and everything; Other times I lack the confidence to even stand up and face the mundane. Sometimes, I want to do something, anything, so vehemently; Other times I just care about having a good night’s sleep. Sometimes, I want to be the person I am not; Other times I want the other people to be the persons they are not.

But then, it’s just a phase. A phase where I am trying to deal with approaching thirty in a matter of two years. When I think about the past five or six years, time seems so fleeting. I was allowed to be naïve back then, but somehow time just slipped past and I am still naïve. Still clueless, trying to solve the jigsaw puzzle of my expectations from life.

Anyhow, It’s just a phase and like any other, it too shall pass!  

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Open Eyed Meditations- Book Review


About the Book:
Title: Open Eyed Meditations
·         Paperback: 280 pages
·         Publisher: Fingerprint! Publishing; First edition (1 July 2016)
·         Language: English
·         ISBN-10: 8175993901
·         ISBN-13: 978-8175993907

About the Author:
Shubha Vilas holds a degree in engineering and law with a specialization in patent law. But in essence, he is an author, a motivational speaker, lifestyle coach, and a storyteller par excellence.  His leadership seminars, wherein he addresses the crucial needs of top-level management through inspiring seminars, are popular in corporate houses. Shubha Vilas periodically interacts with the youth in premier institutes across the world, inspiring them to live a life based on deeper human values. Traveling across the globe and meeting people from all walks of life, he teaches the importance of being governed by dharmic principles, meting out spiritual lifestyle tips and contemporary wisdom to deal with modern-day life situations.

Other books by the Author: Ramayana-The Game of Life Series, The Chronicles of Hanuman

My Review:
When we think meditation, we think of an abstruse skill of a deep interiorized focused state achieved with closed eyes. But this book introduces us to a whole new concept of meditation with open eyes. Each thought, which has been presented in the book relating it to a story from the epics of Ramayana and Mahabharata, opens the window to meditation with open eyes while participating in the battlefield of life.

The book is a compilation of beautiful thoughts or rather Sutras of life. The best part of this compilation for me is that it brings out the balance between practical and spiritual. Each life lesson is carved out into words that fall perfectly into place. There are no embellishments and no going off the track. Each life lesson is stated in way that it just hits the bull’s eye.

If one can interiorize the sixty four meditations that the author has presented in the book, and make them a part of his/her everyday behavior, he is sure to rise in life, spiritually, personally and professionally.     

There are lessons for every wake of life from love to happiness to acceptance, from managing anger to handling embarrassments, the qualities of a successful leader told by giving the example of Lord Krishna.

I’ll quote a few of my favorite sentences from the book: -

“Just like harmony between a lion and human is unlikely, harmony between unlike minds is unlikely. For stable relationships, we need to embrace like minded people, rather than forcing the unlike-minded people to embrace change.”

“Love in any relationship is about action and not just a feeling. Active love is about prioritizing others’ needs, not just in words but also in actions.”

“When you hate someone, you actually hate something in him that is a part of yourself.”

The real essence of the book, however, lies in being able to follow the wise words written in there and not just reading it. This book is a guide to every human being. Written in simple words which have rather a deep impact, this book is a beautiful read.

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Sunday, January 29, 2017

Life Lessons :)

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Life teaches something every other day. Learning never stops. Life is a school we never stop attending to. We fall and then we rise. We fall again and then we rise again. It goes on and on. It’s not like the regular school we attend in our childhood, where there is a set curriculum, a set list of lessons, and where we have the choice of leaving out a few lessons if they are too much for our understanding. The school of life comes with an element of surprise; we never know what is the next lesson we may have to learn. We never know what and how life will challenge us. We never have a clue what test we may have to appear in. We may have to go through the same test again and again, until we choose to learn finally.

There is so much that we learn every day, actively or passively. But if I have to share the greatest lesson of life that I have learnt so far goes something like below:

No matter what, don’t carry emotional baggage. Believe in forgiveness and move on. If we give a lot of importance to whatever wrongs were committed against us, we poison our ownselves. And we sure don’t want to do that. Life is too short to harbor bitterness and host long self pity parties. Sometimes, we do that in the name of ego/ self-respect, but while attempting to protect our self respect, we fail to cleanse our emotional system. When I talk about wrongs, I don’t essentially mean some major betrayals/ selfish deeds/ drastic harms which we had to go through; I also mean small and little everyday things, which get escalated in our tiny emotional system; including arguments, misunderstandings, heartbreaks, unattended needs; basically everything from tiniest emotion left unhealed to the biggest and most drastic life experiences.   

There is no use playing the blame game, pinpointing people, holding resentments, criticizing people, criticizing circumstances. The real freedom, the real liberation and the real bliss comes with forgiveness. Forgiveness for people and forgiveness for circumstances. No one does the kind of things they do knowing that they are doing wrong. They do the kind of things they do because they believe they are doing right. It’s difficult to understand but it kind of works this way mostly. Everyone is dealing with their own limitations, learning their own lessons, just like we are. We all seem to be so different yet our roots are same. We are all attending the same school of life, just that we are learning the personalized lessons designed exclusively for us, at our own pace, in our own ways. When we attend school, we are told by peers and parents to not judge weak students, help everyone and be good to everyone. Same holds true in the school of life as well. Why judge people? Why not just be good to everyone. May be they are yet to learn their lessons. Why not just keep your emotional system clean and pure by learning forgiveness. Rather than dealing with the emotional baggage, we can deal with better lessons of life. After all, life is short.

And this principle of forgiveness does not apply to other people only; it applies to self as well. Infact, it’s much more important when it comes to self. It’s only human to make mistakes and get messed up once in a while. It never helps to sit on our own mistakes and ridicule ourselves. Self-loathing is much more harmful than the emotional baggage. It’s perfectly alright if we make mistakes. We learn even from our mistakes. So we should forgive ourselves for all the meddling up we do and love ourselves all the same.

In the end nothing matters, only love does. Love is the true nature of all of us humans.

So, that’s the biggest lesson of life I have learnt till date. I have yet not perfected it and I am constantly trying. It may take a pretty long time still and that’s another reason it’s the biggest of all lessons for me.


“SAY NO TO EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE. SAY YES TO FORGIVENESS. SAY NO TO TRASH EMOTIONS. SAY YES TO LOVE.”

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Friday, January 27, 2017

*Don't settle for fear*

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Let fear never drive you. It happens many a times that we are so used to being afraid and our sub-conscious without letting our conscious mind know starts affecting our choices. Fear is the greatest enemy one can have. It makes us believe we are not enough; we do not deserve any better. It’s the root of all negativity in our minds, all the toxins in our psyche. When it starts overpowering you, you’ll feel like settling, settling for the lesser, settling for the fear of not being able to fit in if you don’t.

“All my friends are getting married. What if I don’t? What if my age passes and I am left all alone in this world?”

“Oh! But I love this guy! But is he treating you right? Chances are that he may not be. But what if I don’t find any better?”

There is an age when everybody around you is either getting married, getting engaged, going on a honeymoon, having a family and there are talks of marriage all around you. The panic streak in you gets propelled by an underlying fear at some or the other point of time; and then, this underlying fear will give you many expedient and practical terms to justify this deep seated unrecognized fear. You may call it adjustment, being practical, sometimes you may even term it as love. It would throw several logics in front of you-“But! You can’t get everything!”, “It’s about making the best out of what is available.” “Compromises are a must in life.” “So what if he has limitations? I love him.” “He is well settled, what if he lacks some basic sense.” “He is not doing it intentionally. He is just a little messed up.” “It will get better with time, I can make it work.” And there will be umpteen no. of reasons that your fear will give you to just settle.

Not that I say believe in some surreal, far-fetched fairy tale prince coming your way. But, you better know when you just start crossing that fine line of being propelled by your fears and fears alone. You’re throwing away your confidence, your self esteem, your individuality and most of all, your life, your very own life, and all that for some petty thing as settling.

Making yourself smaller to get that approval of “Happily Settled” and from whom? The society who least cares? To appear taller in front of the society, if you give up the height of your self esteem, you do nothing but betray yourself.

There is not more than a handful of people in our lives who really care with what we do with our lives. Rest all just need some masala gossip for sipping their evening masala tea. And the people who care will always stand by you in all phases of your life, no matter what. So care about the few who matter.

A little bit of adjustment will always be required and we do that with our families, with our friends almost all the time. But don’t let your fear make you adjust more than what is necessary. Don’t give in if you fear losing yourself. You are the most important being you have got. Don’t let the fear play you and take you away from your very ownself. Don’t let the fear be the driver. Don’t let it pull the reins for you.

As it is rightly said, “Fear is death, fear is sin, fear is hell, fear is unrighteousness, fear is wrong life. All the negative thoughts and ideas that are in this world have proceeded from this evil spirit of fear.”