*Discovering Self Love*

Image Source: Addicted2success.com

Embracing our box of choices is the first step to a groundbreaking love because love starts from accepting and loving ourselves. That being said this one sentence can take a lifetime of work. And it’s OK.

We should not be deterred with the overwhelming and demanding work associated with our discovery of self love. Things worth having solicit us to work and work incessantly. Understanding self love in the right way is crucial because most of the times we confuse it with the defensive love for ego rather than recognizing it as a gentle forgiving love for the ever present soul which gets buried under the layers of ego. When they say love yourself, it doesn’t mean love the shallow trivialities which are but not you; it rather means love that deep and fathomless part of you which knows the distinction between your ego-self and your soul-self.

Love your wounds and love your scars not because you are proud of making mistakes and falling over and over again, but because you are aware even in your falls that you will rise again, because this love will go into your wounds and scars and it will heal you.

Accept yourself not because you don’t know any better, but because you understand that you are trying; understanding and accepting, precedes the change that you will ultimately be able to witness however long it might take.

Be patient with yourself when you see yourself getting trapped in old patterns again and again, not because reality checks should be ignored, but because you can relentlessly keep to the chase by trying unendingly.

Tell yourself that you are beautiful, not because you want to balm your vanity, but because you have to be as tender to yourself as a loving mother to her child who never fails to see the beauty in him/her.

Give yourself time and don’t compare your life with that of the others. They are going on their unique life path and you are going on yours. There are endless stars in the universe, some start shining when others are about to die. We are all on our specially curated paths which are designed exclusively for each individual. The events of ones life may not make sense in someone else’s and that should never be a reason to doubt or castigate ourselves. Half of the misery in life arises only because of comparison when in reality we are not meant to be compared. We all shine in our own time and we shouldn’t worry too much even if that takes more than a lifetime. Divine promises are never broken and if we are lost, lord will lead us to the way where we shall find ourselves shining in our inner light.

Believe in your gut and listen to your calling. Be faithful to that tiny little voice inside you that manages to find its way to you despite all the noise of negativity springing forth from fear, comparison, vanity and conceit. Pray and don’t let this voice die. This is what shall lead you to the path of self-discovery. We never invent self because we just have to discover it which is hidden beneath the many layers of stubborn dirt accumulated on it.

If you think your life is harder than others, don’t get bitter. Strength of character can’t be forged if we just keep reveling in spring, it requires sweltering heat. It is just the kind of grilling you need to evolve and shine. So don’t get attached to your sorrows and miseries. Just feel those to transform those and you shall come out better and brighter.

Teach yourself each passing day that life has no set rules or formulas.  Two plus two is four and one plus three is four as well. When you find your life not going according to established norms of society, tell yourself to never lose heart. Always walk with your head held high, even when the world looks at you as a misfit. Never forget theirs is not the only way and nor is yours. We are walking on the different paths but in the end we shall arrive at the same place. So, keep going no matter what.

Everyday get up in the morning and feel a wave of self surging from your bosom all the way up to your mind and reaching your entire body. When you will learn to love yourself with such conviction, all fears will dissolve and the doors to divine love will open.

Never ignore the importance of self love. It is not a selfish thing; it is rather something that will deliver you from selfishness. It will lead you to divine in yourself and burn all the invisible bridges you have built around yourself.

"Love yourself."