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Life teaches something every other
day. Learning never stops. Life is a school we never stop attending to. We fall
and then we rise. We fall again and then we rise again. It goes on and on. It’s
not like the regular school we attend in our childhood, where there is a set
curriculum, a set list of lessons, and where we have the choice of leaving out
a few lessons if they are too much for our understanding. The school of life
comes with an element of surprise; we never know what is the next lesson we may
have to learn. We never know what and how life will challenge us. We never have
a clue what test we may have to appear in. We may have to go through the same
test again and again, until we choose to learn finally.
There is so much that we learn every
day, actively or passively. But if I have to share the greatest lesson of life
that I have learnt so far goes something like below:
No matter what, don’t carry emotional baggage.
Believe in forgiveness and move on. If we give a lot of importance to whatever
wrongs were committed against us, we poison our ownselves. And we sure don’t want
to do that. Life is too short to harbor bitterness and host long self pity
parties. Sometimes, we do that in the name of ego/ self-respect, but while
attempting to protect our self respect, we fail to cleanse our emotional
system. When I talk about wrongs, I don’t essentially mean some major
betrayals/ selfish deeds/ drastic harms which we had to go through; I also mean
small and little everyday things, which get escalated in our tiny emotional
system; including arguments, misunderstandings, heartbreaks, unattended needs;
basically everything from tiniest emotion left unhealed to the biggest and most
drastic life experiences.
There is no use playing the blame
game, pinpointing people, holding resentments, criticizing people, criticizing
circumstances. The real freedom, the real liberation and the real bliss comes
with forgiveness. Forgiveness for people and forgiveness for circumstances. No
one does the kind of things they do knowing that they are doing wrong. They do
the kind of things they do because they believe they are doing right. It’s difficult
to understand but it kind of works this way mostly. Everyone is dealing with
their own limitations, learning their own lessons, just like we are. We all
seem to be so different yet our roots are same. We are all attending the same
school of life, just that we are learning the personalized lessons designed
exclusively for us, at our own pace, in our own ways. When we attend school, we
are told by peers and parents to not judge weak students, help everyone and be
good to everyone. Same holds true in the school of life as well. Why judge
people? Why not just be good to everyone. May be they are yet to learn their
lessons. Why not just keep your emotional system clean and pure by learning
forgiveness. Rather than dealing with the emotional baggage, we can deal with
better lessons of life. After all, life is short.
And this principle of forgiveness does
not apply to other people only; it applies to self as well. Infact, it’s much
more important when it comes to self. It’s only human to make mistakes and get
messed up once in a while. It never helps to sit on our own mistakes and
ridicule ourselves. Self-loathing is much more harmful than the emotional
baggage. It’s perfectly alright if we make mistakes. We learn even from our
mistakes. So we should forgive ourselves for all the meddling up we do and love
ourselves all the same.
In the end nothing matters, only love
does. Love is the true nature of all of us humans.
So, that’s the biggest lesson of life I
have learnt till date. I have yet not perfected it and I am constantly trying. It
may take a pretty long time still and that’s another reason it’s the biggest of
all lessons for me.
“SAY NO TO EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE. SAY YES
TO FORGIVENESS. SAY NO TO TRASH EMOTIONS. SAY YES TO LOVE.”
This post is written for the INDISPIRE
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